Let go...

Many times in our lives we tend to be so controlling and we always thought we are right. We want to control our own life and even others. So what happen when things goes hard and we have situations beyond our control? We break down.

I've read a book; The Root of Rejection by Pauline Joyce Hutchinson Meyer which taught me a lot. The book is mainly about rejection and the effects and how to manage it. One of the symptoms is control. Anyway, I'm not gonna touch on rejections here. Lets just focus on control first.

We control mainly because of fear. Fear of being look down, fear of being weak, lets just conclude it as fear of what people think of us. We want to be in control in our lives, to live high, well at least to show to other people that we live that way. Thank God we are given the free will in making choices in our lives. I am not saying that its wrong to control ourselves and make decisions to do good things but what is the real reason we do so? Are we doing it to please God? Or are we doing that to please men? When we do things because of other reason than pleasing God it is wrong already. What happen when something goes wrong? We break down. We get mad to others for not giving us credit to our job. We get tired of doing the good things because we expect other people to repay us back. We get mad. Let go. Check back your intentions and pray to God to renew your mind set. Then life will be awesome.

Not even that, most of the time we try to control other people's life and that is even worse. Let me put it this way; our life is hard enough to be control and we try to control others? That what I call extra hard work dude~ LOL. I experienced that myself too. When I first knew about my sister's new relationship and how she started to call late at night even when its school days, I get mad. I feel like as an older sister I need to help her realize her wrong doings. However, instead of giving her advice and let her choose to do the right thing, I try to control her. One night, I locked her out our room when she went calling till late night. I was so sure that she will stop but guess what? The next day she brought her pillows and stuffs and sleep on the couch. OMG can you imagine how mad I was that time? It went on for like a week and it is so stressful. It effect our relationship badly too. So instead of being the Good Sister I am actually becoming the Monstrous one! Thank God He teach me with His word that only God can change people. When I learned that it is very tiring to do so, I surrendered. I let go and let God do his job. Now, I even become good friends with her boyfriend. I learned that when we know someone is doing the wrong things we should make them know what they did wrong but instead of controlling that person we also have to understand that still, it is their choice to change or not.

I hope this message will make us all realize that controlling make our life miserable. Stop controlling your life and others and let go. Let us just do our part and let God do the rest. Let everything that we do, we do it for God and I believe we will live a happier life. Cheers =)